Many people think that funeral pre-planning is a one-and-done task. But in reality, some major life events may give you good reason to rethink your plans. And getting married is one of these. Why? Here are a few elements of funeral planning that you may want to alter. 

1. Burial and Cremation

Did you already decide on burial, cremation, donation, or some other final resting place for your remains? Your new relationship may cause you to reassess that. 

Perhaps your spouse wants to be buried together or they're eco-conscious and would like to explore composting. Whatever the reason, make sure your old plans are still the way to go. 

2. The Funeral Budget

As a family, you should make certain big-budget decisions together. Married couples may see their joint income rise, but others may have new expenses. 

Whichever direction your budget may have changed, look at your funeral plans to see if they're still in line with your current financial situation. This can be a difficult conversation, but it's important to protect both spouses. 

3. Funerary Traditions

Have your religious or spiritual beliefs changed since meeting your partner? Are they more or less religiously inclined? How might this affect the traditions you plan to have at your funeral? 

It's common for beliefs to change over a lifetime, and your significant other may be an influence on that. Take a look at your current plans and see if your feelings toward any elements are different. 

4. Who Plans Your Funeral

Most people would like their surviving spouse to make the most crucial decisions or take charge of funeral planning. However, if you made your arrangements before you met or married them, you may need to update that plan to include them. 

5. Special Details

What special mementos or touches would you like to make for your spouse if you pass away? Would you like to include their favorite song or hymn, their favorite flowers, or specific members of their family? Maybe you want to leave them a personal message or have a meaningful tradition added. 

While you can add some of these details to your will, altering the written funeral plans is often an easier way. It also ensures that the changes will be noted before the will is read. 

Where to Start

No matter what may or may not have changed since you did funeral pre-planning, start by meeting with a funeral home in your area. With their help and guidance, you and your new partner will find the right balance for you as a couple. 

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